How to focus on ‘You’ this Valentines Day

BARBARI Mindfulness, Thoughts


February is the month of luuuuurve. While this can totally mean cuddling up with your main squeeze or swiping through a dating app to find a main squeeze, it doesn’t have to! Justin Beiber was throwing shade when he said, “You should go and love yourself,” but maybe he was onto something. This month is all about being a little selfish and crushing on yours truly.

We’re already a month into 2020, but it’s never too late to hit the refresh button––especially when it comes to taking care of yourself. All aboard the self-love train! Here are your February horoscopes:

CAPRICORN, December 22 – January 20
A persistent mentality is one of your superpowers. While it’s tempting to use your powers on the pursuit of other people’s enjoyment, why not focus on your own? Whether you make a solo trek to the big O or search far and wide for the best ice cream in town, using your persistence on self-pleasure this February will be oh-so-satisfying.

AQUARIUS, January 21 – February 18
Pantone Color of the Year for 2020 is classic blue, the color of the ocean and the hue of you, a water-bearing Aquarius. This month, slip into a few wet delights, like taking a hot bath with fizzy, fancy bath bombs or sipping herbal tea, which, as they say, is like taking a bath on the inside.

PISCES, February 19 – March 20
Pisces people are generous creatures, but who says you can’t be generous with yourself? This month, we recommend indulging in something completely impractical, like Instagrammable face masks, luxury cannabis products, or a candle that’s [almost] too pretty to burn.

ARIES, March 21 – April 20
As an Aries, you’ve got quite a passionate side. Why not channel that into some self-pleasure? Dry January is over, and it’s time to get wet. Explore your body, find out what makes you purr, and do it again, and again, and again.


TAURUS, April 21 – May 20
Whether you made New Year’s resolutions or not, it’s never too late to freshen up your look. This February, give in to your vain side. Buy some new lipstick, get a blowout, or opt for a beauty treatment you totally don’t need. Tauruses are famously stubborn, so ignore the vanity police and push through the noise.

GEMINI, May 21 – June 20
As cuffing season comes to a close, many are frantically trying to find a match. That said, why not embrace your twinning personality, Gemini? Treat yourself to a delicious meal, buy yourself a few CBD prerolls, and spend that match-hunting energy celebrating all aspects of your identity.

CANCER, June 21 – July 22
Feeling lovesick this February? A little self-induced TLC might be just what the doctor ordered. Whether this means a spa day, a trip to an herbal smoke shop, or throwing your pants on the floor and smashing your face into a pillow while streaming your favorite show, do you!

LEO, July 23 – August 22
Leos have a reputation for being vivacious leaders. As the winter season wraps up, lean into your alpha side. Host a Galentine’s Day get-together for your squad, and tell each of your pals how important they are. Being a nurturer is a pleasure in and of itself. So, sit back, relax, and relish in rounding up the troops.

VIRGO, August 23 – September 22
2020 is the Chinese Year of the Rat. The clever, cunning rodent symbolizes renewal–– and pampering might be just the thing to make you feel new. Go ahead and spend some of your dollars on the self-care industry. Whether you’re revamping your entire look with a makeover or just renewing the batteries in your vibrator, don’t apologize for self-love this month.

LIBRA, September 23 – October 22
Libras are known for their diplomatic dispositions. If you’re used to making accommodations in the name of romance, it’s time to switch things up. Instead of playing fair this February, we say to hell with settling! You have all the time in the world to find a loving partner, so don’t rush it. Know your self-worth and get comfortable with self-love.

SCORPIO, October 23 – November 22
Loyal Scorpios have a tendency to crave love, and who can blame them, really? If you’re not coupled up this month, go easy on your single self. Embrace your easy-breezy side and reach for a buzzing pocket-pleaser. You don’t need anyone else to feel stimulated, if you know what we mean.

SAGITTARIUS, November 23 – December 21
Hey Sagittarius, we know you run on honesty. Yet sometimes, being honest with yourself is the hardest thing. Take time to reflect on both your needs and your wants this month. How do you really want to spend your time, and what do you need to do to get where you want to be? Surrender to your true desires, and make things happen.

Theresa Holland is a contributing writer for BARBARI and the author of a health and lifestyle blog called The Taboo Textbook. Theresa is a full time writer, mom, and sometimes comedian. Her blogging journey started with a poorly-designed tumblr account in 2014 and evolved into an accidental online personality. Theresa likes telling jokes and writing weekly movie reviews on Instagram. She lives in Portland, Oregon with her family. 

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